The Blessings of Obedience – Tips for Christian Parents

A parent’s job is more than just discipline. It is more than just making sure our kids are always happy. It is more than a list of arbitrary rules. Parenting is a proactive, preventative, purposeful activity where a child’s character is pursued over his happiness.

Today we are going to explore another parental role: encouraging our children with conversations and illustrations about the blessings that come from obedience.

Deuteronomy 28: 1-14 is our model for this concept. In the preceding books, the nation of Israel was miraculously freed from slavery in Egypt, saw the mighty hand of God at work in their protection and sustainment (remember the Red Sea, manna from heaven, the cloud by day and pillar of fire by night?) and experienced God dwelling in their midst (the tabernacle). It is with this backdrop that God shares the multitude of blessings they will receive if they obey. These words take place during a time of peace and when the nation has a soft heart toward God.

Let’s now apply this to our role as parents. Today, we will look at the blessings your children can expect to receive if they choose a path of obedience.

You will notice that these blessings are not in the form of material rewards, gifts or treats. These have their place at times but as a general rule they are a cheap substitute for the substantive, internal blessings that come from obedience. Feel free to add your own ideas for blessings in the comments section below.

You will feel joyful

Obedience actually feels better. Point out to your child how you see an obedient heart reflected in their overall mood. You can say, “I have noticed that you smile a lot more when you are follow the family rules.”

You will enjoy a positive family mood

Have you ever notice that even one family member can affect the mood of the whole family? (that includes mom and dad!) You can point out, “Wow! The whole family mood seems happy and upbeat when everyone is making good choices.”

You will be trusted to do the right thing

Children who are choosing obedience are more easily trusted. Tell them, “Yes, you can take that package to the neighbor’s house. I can trust you to be where you are supposed to be because you have been making good choices lately.”

Your heart will be soft

Your child will not always make the right choice. They will disobey. It’s not about obedience at all cost. That would make obedience an idol. It’s more about what you do about the wrong choice when you feel convicted. Whenever you notice your child’s heart is soft, you can say something like, “We all make mistakes. The way you apologized to your sister really showed me how sorry you are.”

A note to parents

Notice that all of these acknowledgements of blessings come during times of peace. Using them as a threat or a “carrot” will be less effective (ie: “Well, if you listened to me, I would be able to trust you more, but since you don’t listen, I can’t.”). These truths are just that: truths. They are not intended to manipulate your child into compliance. It is simply another way to disciple your children and to teach them that God’s way is best and is the path that brings the most peace.